The mother and the child and rules of education

That fathers and mothers journey is a journey of a lifetime, and the ability to raise children, and without raising one's voice, or the use of verbal violence or physical violence direction of the children, will make family life more stable, and more loving, and more intimacy and affection, all it takes Parents, ways and simple rules and easy, for successful breeding and stable life.

And overcoming the aspects of personal shortcomings, and develop increasing levels of competence, knowledge and wisdom and emotional energy, you will believe in modern methods of farming and modern direction of your children, and you mean here Parents companions to your children in the early stages of their lives, and you, fathers and mothers of the happy life possessed the keys to your children, that you have to follow the breeding methods based on concepts and sound pedagogical rules, has to develop these concepts, specialists, researchers and educators, their long experience and knowledge in successful breeding methods.

* Maternity and paternity philosophy

The cause of the unique differences between adult, can not use one approach, and to be mothers and fathers use different approaches, and choose what fits their style and mood, and as long as the founder of each approachThe principles of education and proper upbringing, which means that mothers and fathers be united in one front and support to each other, and not necessary in the same things he did, and the only time it may not beThe support of a parent, the child is ill-treated, and in this case must be the protection of children.

And the result of parental authority between the proper relationship between them and their children, and the child who loves his parents, he wants to please his parents and their assimilation, and wants to take and derive a lot of the values ​​and beliefs of his parents, but a child who hates his parents or one of them, he wants to distance himself from them and from the ideas and values ​​of his parents, and not meant to have the admiration and his parents, and in this case the parents will not be able to pass on as much as anythingImportance in proportion to their children, and the most important case in the upbringing of children, is to strengthen the warm feelings between parents and between mothers and their children, and it is necessary to take this situation into consideration, and in every moment of moments in the child's own upbringing, and especially in a situation that requires evaluating the child's behavior.

- What in the capacity of mothers and fathers in the upbringing of their children to do?

There are things in the capacity of parents and mothers do, and are the following:

1 - in the treatment you can tell your children to respect, and even you are suffering from stress.

2 - you can tell in response kindness and patience on your child's mistakes.

3 - You can express your love to your children, through hugs and care and gifts and words and kind words and loving.

4 - in the sense of taking into account you can tell your children, through sympathy with them, and provide emotional and psychological support to them.

5 - in you can tell your children help in the work they do.

6 - you can tell in establishing expectations and goals appropriate to your child.

7 - you can tell in encouraging your children to practice a hobby or activity they love.

8 - you can tell in exposing your children to the values ​​and beliefs, and that you be brought up as you them.

9 - you can tell in educating your children to know their history and identity.

10 - you can tell in the education of your child some spiritual knowledge.

11 - in you can tell your children to act with consistency and confidence.

12 - you can tell in the education of your children some skills.

13 - you can tell in modeling the behavior of your children.

14 - you can tell in the activation of different styles of discipline and civility.

15 - you can tell in the provision of all the physical needs of your children.

16 - you can tell in the provision of all educational and recreational benefits and medical, and that ye do it on.

17 - you can tell in providing opportunities to your children, your children through the development of skills and attention.

18 - you can tell in the care of yourselves, and reduce the pressure on you, in which you become fathers and mothers healthier and more relaxed.

19 - you can tell in maintaining your health and mental emotional and physical in where you can work, in your full potential, and in each activity and vitality and optimism.

20 - you can tell in the work to ensure the success of marital life, and married life make this a successful and happy life.

21 - you can tell the people to consult specialists in Can education and the family.

22 - you can tell in the continuing development, such as improving skills and develop your abilities, and the development of yourselves, your children in terms of doling out a form to the development and growth and self-improvement.

- What are the things you can not do mothers and fathers with their children?

Although there are many things parents can do the direction of their children, but there are things parents can not do for their children, and are the following:

1 - I can not guarantee that your child will be happy.

2 - You can not guarantee the safety of your children the psychological and mental.

3 - You can not ensure the physical health of your children.

4 - You can not ensure the success of your children in the study.

5 - You can not guarantee a wide circle of friends to your children.

6 - You can not ensure your children get jobs unwanted.

7 - You can not guarantee your child marriage in the future success.

8 - You can not guarantee that there will be a consensus between the relationship of your children, between brothers and sisters.

9 - You can not guarantee that clings to your children in your values ​​and your beliefs.

10 - You can not guarantee that your child chooses life-like life.

11. You can not guarantee that your children will be enjoying in a high degree of self-confidence and self-appreciation.

12 - You can not ensure that your child's teachers and teachers in the school, in that they are good teachers.

13 - You can not guarantee that others will treat your children well treated.

14 - You can not ensure that the family and relatives love and support your children.

15 - You can not save or help your children when they are in pain.

And instead of thinking about your mission, as the task of raising people who work relentlessly, it may be useful to think of your job description, in the description (humanitarian support growth), and in this capacity that the job could be providing connectivity path, and it will help you to identify very achievable, and humanitarian means to support growth, and to try to do things that help your children to realize their potential is also unique, and is a means to avoid doing things that may hinder the growth of your children, or interfere with their achievement in what they can accomplish, and that parents know how to raise their children, and without that raise their voices, it is crucial in that they would not limit the growth of their children and development.

* Love

Upbringing and education become more easily, if the child feels in love with his parents, and they appear here parents genius in education, and when they ask of their children, for example, brushing their teeth, here do it and their children are more joy, and ease of driving parents lie to their children more efficient and more able to control the actions and behavior of their children, and the child is difficult, it makes parents and mothers seem not fully competent, and it does not matter here to be the father or mother is headed by a big company out of hundreds of employees and workers.

And that the upbringing and education functions are just a means to an end, it is not important how to clothe children clothes and send them to school and feed them and so on, what is important is how to be in the way that a child dressed in the style in which the child feels in love and respect, where the child is encouraged to do the duties required of it, and is fueled by love and pride, and feel in increasing its value and his goat with his parents.

* Education Strategies least pressure

Whether the child was docile or ungovernable or in between, the principles of Education will apply whatever the case and the child's behavior, and will be confined to the specific diversity training strategies, and any type the child, and mutual respect relationship and will be an important prerequisite in education, but it may be ungainly child may need to be more opportunities to learn and reward more momentum, and will be accompanied by so more negative consequences on the brothers in the most easily manageable and more willingly in the implementation of what is required of them.

* The importance of the relationship between fathers and mothers and children

The most important Strategies of education, is to build a positive relationship, and despite the lack of parents alone and able to build this relationship, and in isolation from their children, but the parents did things able to create an environmental typical and good soil, so grow the positive relationship with their children, and you have to stay with your eyes monument fact that love is the only force really owned by the parents.

And here it is imperative that parents be likable behavior to their children in the ratio of at least 80% of the time, in the sense that there will be 8 to 10 moments of all grainy and unpleasant moments, from the point of view of the direction of the child the behavior of his parents, and typical reactions that generate good feelings from the direction of the parents of their children, including smiling, and touch, and praise and praise, and the use of phrases and words of love to the child, and expression of love and affection in words, and listen to the child, and play, and joking, and giving gifts and entertainment, and to express an understanding, and expressions of interest, and the sharing of ideas, and to provide assistance to the child.

And negative reactions and bad feelings include, yelling, and criticism, and correction - correction errors, and the manifestations of anger, and the complaint, and rebuke, and punishment, and inconvenience, and the questioning, and humiliation, and giving orders, and guidance, and give instructions, and rebuking and beating, and give lectures and hortatory.

* Emotional Education

Emotional education very simple approach, but this is an effective approach in the degree there are almost incredible, and given the strength and effectiveness of this approach, the best training that strengthen the relationship between parents and their children mechanisms, will affects on the behavior of their children and an increase in their sense of safety.

And emotional skill training is to accompany our children on their journey, and carving this concept, Dr. (John Gottman) in his book (the upbringing of emotionally intelligent) child, and found Dr. (John Gottman) that children emotionally trainersThey possess emotionally intelligent, and they were familiar with in their own feelings and the feelings of others, and it was possible for these children to identify with other people, and they had better social skills, and found also that these children are able to adjust their emotions and organized in the best shape.

* Education and polite without anger or violence

It is important to know how to control anger, but the most important is to know how to prevent provoke feelings of anger, and parents get angry for several reasons, and there are strategies to control the pressure in the working group to prevent anger, and of those strategies include:

1 - Eat a healthy diet and taking vitamins.

2 - exercise on a daily basis, up to a period of at least 10 minutes, such as jogging.

3 - practice some relaxation day, and to a period of at least 10 minutes, such as relaxation through breathing, meditation, hiking.

4 - Eat like a soothing, medicinal herbs drinks fluids, cumin, anise, chamomile.

5 - exercise your hands and massage the feet.

6 - a hobby grainy, and to briefly every day.

7 - reading and listening to soothing music.

8 - spend an enjoyable day, and to the short period of time.

9 - Avoid Other types of bickering and arguing and shouting.

10 - avoid excessive undertakings.

11 - Set aside time to spend with the kids every day, and even if this time is short.

12 - form a group of friends and associates, and exchange of visits with them.

* Children under the age of four

Knowledge is the secret, could become the second child of age, a child from annoying to have a wonderful child reaching the age of three, if mothers and fathers knew guidance tools, which are in need, and this a little knowledge have effective impact in helping in raising children at that stage in efficiency and quiet and fun.

In the first three years of a child's life, many challenges behavioral and emotional shows, including issues related to food and sleep and exploration and emotional control and social behavior etc.In addition, and for example, that's up to parents and mothers is, in deciding how to resolve the problems of early childhood, and is a will to allow their children to eat candy or not, and is allowed to the child going to sleep, and is there a base makes it imperative for a child to eat only at the table.

* Teenagers

Whether father or mother still learn to skills, or who had been seasoned in which to hold the whole of time, the attempt to apply those skills, the adolescent age group considered is not easy at all, and thisIs a challenge, and because the teenagers themselves represent a major challenge, and one hand those teenagers still enjoy freedom in childhood on the one hand, and they are still financially dependent on the family, and usually obtain care of the family and the family, such as the right to sit the computer and use it, and the right to use the car and the phone, and this age group from another point begin to progress toward the adult world and spend the longest time away from home, and the discovery of new facts, and knowledge of the natures of human beings, and exposure to experiences and activities related to leisure and work both times.

All of these conditions is a challenge, and who enter into the world of adolescence at a time of rapid physical changes in the body and an increase in the secretion of hormones, and crises of identity, and the change in the form of the body, as well as emotional instability, then the growth of the urgent desire for independence and the need for such action is outside the scope of family supervision, and the enthusiasm of youth and the excess of self-confidence, and in a senseNot to be afraid, and the tendency to rush could lead to reckless behavior that is responsible, such as drinking alcohol and sleeping pills abuse, and lack of maturity, all of this represents a triangle in the ratio terrifying to parents and mothers, care must be taken here of fathers and mothers to consolidate the relationship with the children, and setting rules and limits, and to clarify the requirement of mutual respect.

* Parents and sources of concern

In proportion to the majority of fathers and mothers worry begins even before the child is born, the baby will be healthy Do you? , Is the child will adapt to the rest of the children? , And anxiety is a companion permanent path to most parents and mothers, and the possibility of anxiety that occurs in large doses to carve fun raising children, and makes this fun eroded, such as negative emotions other, and can interfere in the functions of rational education, and decisions that are made in the anxiety motive is the most wisdom may be, but these decisions may be harsh and inappropriate.

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