The Rules Of Parenting

* Rules to maintain the integrity of your mind

- The first rule - Relax

Who are the best parents you know? , They are those who have a spontaneous ability to say and do the right things, and that lead to a balanced upbringing of children happy and confident in themselves? , Do I wondered for days enjoy the cause of these parents in this capacity? , and now the thought of those others who do not doing well in this matter, and did not these parents on this case? .

The best parents I know are involved in one feature, and is that these parents are dealing with it at all relaxed and calm, and on the contrary, that the worst parents always find them in the nervous worried especially something, and maybe they are not nervous regarding the extent of their competence, such as parents, and perhaps they should be as well, but this kind of parents they are always tense affair in something, and this affects in looting on their ability to be good parents.

I know many parents morbid affair in the system, and they are imposing on their children to take off their shoes at the door, and only considered it a sin unforgivable, and even if it is clean shoes, they feel in if you leave the narrow one of their children something misplaced or cause any chaos, and even if it has been cleaned later, and the next can be difficult for children to be themselves or enjoy in their time,if stained clothes due to play on the grass, or stained their shirts in the cause of eating.

- The second rule - not a full

Did you ever think in what will be the case if you had two parents are ideal full-size?

Well, think of it now, imagine that your parents did they commit any mistakes during your upbringing, and I am nevertheless confident that your parents made mistakes, it was assumed that they were literally are implementing the rules of education, and that your mother was always right, Does this seem interesting? , Not in print.

Listen, that children need someone to challenge him and they grow up, and are in need of people are to blame, so maybe you should give them something to blame who would they send him your direction.

How will it be then? , In printing would not be so harsh or something harmful, you just need to focus on one of the regular features that appear negative natural human weakness, and may lose your temper in the form of faster than it should? , And including pressure put on them too? , Or it may be obsessed in the system and arrangement? , But hey, you've got a better idea, did not strain yourself in question selection of the foundation? , Just be on your nature and showed natural weaknesses, and so save yourself the effort artificiality, and you'll most likely find yourself demerit yourself of what will appear on its own.

I mean here, it is that you should not blame yourself when still in the intensity of your foot for a sound education standards set by yourself.

- The third rule - know your strengths

When was the biggest of my sons I am still a little boy, I always felt in jealousy when I see other parents, and they spend hours playing the ball with their children, while I was not able to do so only in minutes a few are free of enthusiasm, and that was not it suits me.

As it was there that friend who built a beautiful wooden house to one of his sons on one of the trees in the garden of his house, as there was a mother who was a center used in the creation of an attractive and adventures plays out in children concerts, not to mention that the father, who was accompanied by his daughter to music lessons every week like me, with the nuance that it seemed that he really enjoys it, and other matters, and the list goes on.

You may have understood my purpose now, and I've been able to focus on what the other parents work, seemingly oblivious to the fact that there are a lot of things that I can do it while they can not do so, and those things that look as the things have to be taken for granted, but these things really value.

For example, I love to read to my kids, and I am a open-minded and boasting that too, and may you enjoy spending hours long and I read bedtime stories to my children, and you to emulate all voices and dialects and imitate, and added effects associated to the dramatic atmosphere of the story, all of this seemed normal to the end, and that I realized that the skill value value skill building.

- The fourth rule - violating all the rules can sometimes

We all know that there are rules and laws and regulations and policies is incumbent upon the parents abide by, those agreed not to allow such things to children to eat fast food, and do not let them in to ensure late, and do not let them in the use of improper words, but the parents who follow the rules of sound education also know that the number of rules that are not exposed to the rags are few absolute rulesTo the end, well, we agree that you should have to feed your children healthy food, and three meals a day, but it will not be the end of the universe that I came back after a long day of work, and you're tired and settled for in give your kids a quick food such as fish fillets.

All you have to do is think about the worst that can happen if violated a rule, and in the event that the copyright violated base such as not buckle consequences will be dire, and so it can not breach this rule, But if you do not give your children swimming in the evening, because you're tired, okay, what's the problem with that? .

- The fifth rule - do not try to do everything

What would be your son or daughter when they grow up? , Is a hero in the riding? , Or is a professional football player? , Or is a scientist? , Or do you have a pianist or violinist in band world? , Or may be represented? It is difficult to determine, and they are still young children, so why not keep all possibilities open, and should teach your kids lessons in everything they appear.

I remember the quiet relaxed those parents who talked about them in the first rule? , How many parents traveling with their children successful every day of the week to a different activity? No one does that, they let their children learn active or more and they are really interested in him, and the rest of the time should be spent in the children enjoy in their time, and to wear clothes and play puzzles and puzzles and playing in garden, and the work of different things in containers and empty grain, and the search for insects in the backyard and playing in the dolls in the form of dinosaurs, and dedicated to the reading of books are smaller we are not, and do the rest of the things that are supposed to be undertaken by children, because this is really useful to them, and this keeps them busy for you! .

- The sixth rule - You do not have to follow all the advice you receive

You do not have to follow all the advice you receive (including this advice), what your mother told you? , It is imperative that the child belching every ten minutes during feeding him, while the mother of your husband emphasizes the need buy clothing is loose, so clothes do not wrap the baby's head, and in printing advises you best friends, not to think about buying it in the bud, which is used to carry babies during checkout, And at a time when another girlfriend insists that is indispensable to any mother, oh confusing! .

And that only a few of many, and how much advice heaped on the father and the mother, while the parents of a new baby be blessed, so it really terrifying multitude of tips, and even after the passage of eighteen years will not stop it, but the there are lonely people and you really obliged to listen to him, you alone, and if you are involved in raising a child with a life partner, and you listen to the viewpoint of your life as well as a partner, but that will not do get in the madness, and do not forget what we have agreed that you are bound to remain retained in your mind.

The success of the method, plan or system or method or anything else with someone does not mean the necessity of success with you.

- The seventh rule - from normal to feel in wanting to escape

The truth is that children are adept to end the matter, since the moment of birth, the baby there supposed to hesitate in your mind, until she pushes you to do something in order to silence the child and the cry act succeed in this, Since then, the children they disturb us in routine, and sometimes do not have a hand in it, and in fact does not have any sense of guilt of guilt while learning that they are not responsible for it, but when your son causes wake you up to three consecutive days, and when the child is at the stage of the first three years, it is hard to find in you the sympathy with him, and you know you have to sympathize with him,However, you are inside you wish to shut up and leave you to sleep, and it is more than just a year, but let me tell you that this is what it feels every father and mother from time to time, but you may go through stages where you feel in this feeling fifty times a day, and amid the usual stages where you feel that feeling in a time or two each week.

The important point here is to remember that it is mutual, I remember when you were a kid? , However the effects of your children from your rage, and the father too, you are in fact raises equally, and thus be tied.

- The eighth rule - You are allowed to hide from your kids

In the seventh rule was telling you, that your kids are allowed to raise your rage, and that fact that you are allowed to do something about it, I personally prefer escape and hiding really, I knew I meant I amuse oneself to the nearest closet and hid my breath until my children leave the room.

You must learn that feeling, where they hear them approaching and more and more and one of them says to the other, "No, I will in your snitching," and you know in yourself to the will of the speaker demonstrates this, and without that you have the slightest knowledge of what happened and who happened and whether justified or not, what are you supposed to skilled parent do? , Well, the answer is clear to me in the ratio, hide, and the most beautiful thing then they are that when they do not find you, they will treat it among themselves.

And tell us the many books in the children the importance of education to get (time out), while abusing your children to act, that is, send them to their rooms or to the degree of peace dedicated to naughty children, and that even restless children, and this method may not work, but the children alone did not get all the fun? , and it must also be given you in the (time out) of your own, when you need to be calm, you can give him to yourself, and that means stay away from children in any form they deem appropriate, and including hiding.

- The ninth rule - parents are also human beings

When is the last time you and your wife went out ?, in order to eat dinner without children? , Or you and your spouse spent an evening with friends without you they speak of children and even once?, Or you and your spouse celebrated United you in a certain occasion? , Or you and your spouse are in the manufacture of earthenware pots in the garden, or anything were you making it kills the happy times before the coming of children into the world? .

I hope that this will not be for a long time, to be full of concern in paternity stage that eats up your life to the full, if allowed them in this, but we like parents who follow the rules of sound education, in need to know the right time to separate the two, but you will of course be ready always to exercise your turn like a father, that is, you will not leave him permanently, but what is important here is that you can it is in some fun while you wait.

I hope you understand how important this point, if your children are at the center of your life only focus, this will put them a tremendous amount of pressure, and at some point you will realize that your success is supported Profile in the full amount of their successes and failures, and this heavy burden of injustice thrown on any child.

- The tenth rule - Do not ignore your relationship in your life partner

Clear the base of the title, but the hard part is the application, and many parents know their importance, but few of them actually apply them, but you know just like me they are vital base to end, unless you intend to complete the children alone breeding process.

I have been and still love your partner to the point that you gave birth to children of it, this is important in the right, it is important that this person remains the most important person in your life, and may need less time, and sometimes less attention care for a partner in your life, but it must remain the focus of your love, and that the presence of children change the nature of your relationship more than you imagine, But after 20 years from now will you and your partner United you also started your relationship, and if you do not is the most important party in your life at this point in your life just for your children leave home, and it is important to children as well, and leave the house will fail the only hard thing for them is not likely to add to it in the sense of causing the destruction of the house where the children grew up, and your kids need to know you they enjoy tidying up each other more than anything else,this will help the children to their independence in their lives, and then in the end that every one of them to find a partner loves his life more than it loves you.

The part of the solution in terms of movement, work that out with your partner once a week, if you do not bear the cost of a babysitter, and looking for other parents you know any of your friends and exchanged roles in terms of care in children between you, when you leave your friends and your life partner in caring for your children, and when someone in the company of his partner you you go take care in children.

- Orientation rules

I know that one of the elements of mastering the process of raising children is to enjoy in the proper orientation, and in just to learn how to think in sound and image about your children about what to do in general, you will find that the rest of what those around you of things have moved in the correct image of its own.

Here the focus is on how to get the proper mindset to become one of the outstanding parents, and we mean here in orientation, is about direct you and your children about your job and you're a father, you need to see your children in the best way and believe even enjoy in your presence with them a better picture, and the next child- rearing on the best faces in proper breeding and successful.

And the rules of proper orientation in education, the following points:

1 - Love alone is not enough.

2 - Each recipe has its own components.

3 - Show your happiness when you see your kids.

4 - deal with your children to respect.

5 - revel in the company of your children.

6 - order and cleanliness are important, but not in the importance of dealing with children.

7 - sound education is the process of adventure calculated results.

8 - Keep your fears to yourself in.

9 - to see things through the eyes of your children.

10 - Parenting is not a competitive sport.

- Daily rules in dealing with children

There are a set of rules, it must be dealt with on a daily basis with your children, and are the following:

1 - let the kids continue their lives alone.

2 - your child learned to think alone, and to reflect on their own.

3 - pay tribute to the wisdom of your children and encouraged them.

4 - learn the value of the border.

5 - Pay attention to your mood.

6 - You are responsible for your children's food habits for life.

7 - connect with your children.

8 - Put specific targets.

9 - Do not exaggerate the rebuke of your children.

- Discipline Code

There are rules discipline group are:

1 - the fact that you and your life partner and one front.

2 - the carrot is better than the stick.

3 - to be coherent and consistent behavior.

4 - Cheer up, Be always beaming.

5 - focused on the problem, and do not focus on the person.

6 - do not receive hollow threats.

7 - You're the only loser from behind the loss of temper.

8 - apologized that erred.

9 - accept the apology baby.

10 - freedom of expression.

- Personal rules

Personal educational rules are the following:

1 - Know what motivates your child.

2 - must know that every child what sets it apart.

3 - Learn to appreciate the qualities that reminds you of someone else.

4 - Look for similarities between you and your child.

5 - Find recipes another like it in your children.

6 - Let your children excel you.

7 - trends important as your children the importance of their achievements.

8 - Keep your fears to yourself in.

9 - pay attention to what plant him values within your child.

10 - don't try to make your kids perfect, let them act on their nature.

- The rules of brotherhood

Brothers rules among children are the following:

1 - Work to strengthen the bonds of brotherhood.

2 - I know that the quarrel between children is healthy, as long as this quarrel within reason.

3 - your children aware of how to solve differences in themselves.

4 - Let your children be one team.

5 - Let your children enjoy in the company of some of them.

6 - may not be, and beware of and comparison between a child and another.

7 - every child needs to different rules.

8 - do not prefer one to the other.

9 - type patterns in the relationship between you.

10 - Find the strengths of your children.

- School rules

School rules are the following:

1 - Education is not just about going to school.

2 - the school accepts the pros and cons.

3 - Be in a row fighting with your son.

4 - emotion and aggressive nothing serious.

5 - Teach your kids how to defend themselves.

6 - friends accept your children even if you do not like those friends.

7 - Remember that you are the father of your children, and your children are not a teacher.

8 - Do not try to pamper your children.

9 - eased the pressure for your children.

10 - do not have to bear the consequences of their choices your children, and this is something unacceptable.

- The rules of adolescence

1 - Do not panic.

2 - Remember the third law of Newton's laws.

3 - Give your children the right to participate.

4 - Do not try to reveal their secrets.

5 - exaggerated to take care of your children in, will not benefit them at all.

6 - Do not stand in the face of a train.

7 - shouting will not solve anything.

8 - everything has its conditions.

9 - showed your respect towards what they care about.

10 - a trend toward healthy romantic relationships are built.

- Crisis management rules

1 - Do not use the children as a weapon.

2 - Let them adapt to the situation in their own way.

3 - The fact that the children are young does not mean they are over crises in the form of faster.

4 - the impact of trauma in children may go on forever.

5 - Tell them what happens.

6 - taught them how they exceed the failure to success.

7 - It is best agreement together, do not you think that your word and impose on them.

8 - acts deeper than words.

9 - Be sure to know that they are the most important priorities.

10 - You can not fix everything.

- Adult rules

1 - Leave your children and their business.

2 - Wait until ask you advice.

3 - factor of your children like adults.

4 - Do not try to be their friend, who is close.

5 - Encourage your children, and even if you did not live their lives.

6 - The tender must be unconditional.

7 - your children do not feel guilt.

8 - Remember that your children still need you.

9 - error is not your fault alone.

10 - parenting task does not end.

THE RULES OF PARENTING

RIHARD TEMPLAR

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